Motherhood is exhausting.
There are meals to cook and mouths to feed. But before you can cook those meals, the kitchen has to be tidy, and the dishes have to be done, and you have to decide what to cook, and you have to get to the market to get the ingredients.
You have places to go, and people to see. But before you leave the house you have to get yourself dressed, and get the children dressed. Which means the laundry must be done, and no, you can’t wear shorts when it’s snowing out and did you brush your teeth?
And don’t forget your own teeth, Mama, or your hair. Ponytail again? Maybe a messy bun.
Lot’s of hugs, and kisses, and Mama, you look pretty and oh my gosh, I am so tired!
And that’s just the start of it. If you homeschool, there’s another layer of what must be done, and you can’t forget and please, oh please don’t let them fall behind. Pressure, expectations, stress. Public schoolers aren’t immune…. don’t miss the bus, and that project is due Friday, and pack the lunches, and please let the kids be kind to them today.
So what do you do when it’s just. too. much?
When all you want to do is go back to bed, and the day hasn’t even started yet? When you moved and the boxes are still piled against the wall, or your pregnant, and you may just be sick again, or the kids caught that bug that was going around, and your husband has to work late, and there is another deadline looming, and you just can’t.
There are days when you just need to stop. Seriously. Right this second. Stop.
Be in the moment.
Right now, in this moment, I am sitting here in front of my computer, blabbing about who knows what, to all of you. There is plenty else that needs done, but right now, in this moment, I am right where I need to be, doing right what I need to be doing. In this moment, I am good enough. I am doing enough.
Later, I will sit down with Bug, to go over long division, again. In that moment, all I need to be doing is work with him. It’s enough.
Then, I will make dinner. I’ll stir the pot, and I will put the bread in the oven. I’ll be there in the moment, and it just doesn’t matter that the laundry needs done, because cooking is enough.
Tonight, I will lay in bed, and I will try to sleep. And on a day like today, that is right where I need to be. I am doing what I need to be doing. In that moment, regardless of everything else, laying in bed is enough.
Whatever you are doing right now, you are doing enough too. Forget the to-do list. Forget what you think you should be doing. Just focus on you, in the moment, right now, and let it be enough.
Don’t get caught up in the to-do list. Don’t let your expectations get out of hand. Don’t push too hard, especially on the hard days. Give what you are doing your full attention. Give yourself some grace.
I promise, you really are enough.